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  1. Stories of Recovery From The Frontline #3 In this third installment of our 'In the Trenches' series we bring you Leeah's story of Fighting For Love, overcoming both bad advice and an unsupportive church environment. She also shares the practical steps taken by her and husband, plus the stories in the Bible that sustained and inspired her. To ask the team a question or see our recommended resources go to http://www.fightforloveministries.org To join our private facebook group To purchase Fight For Love by Rosie Makinney
  2. Stories of Recovery From The Frontline #2 Today we bring you the second of our 'In the Trenches' series with Tanya's inspirational walk of faith through the pain and rejection of a porn affected marriage. To ask the team a question or see our recommended resources go to http://www.fightforloveministries.org To join our private facebook group To purchase Fight For Love by Rosie Makinney
  3. Stories of Recovery From The Frontline To encourage others to come out of the shadows and walk in the light about porn addiction in their marriage, our little band of brave women is stepping up like never before, boldly sharing why and how they are currently Fighting For Love in their marriages. Today we bring you the first of our 'In the Trenches' series with Jen's incredibly story of courage and faith straight from the frontline. To ask the team a question or see our recommended resources go to http://www.fightforloveministries.org To join our private facebook group To purchase Fight For Love by Rosie Makinney
  4. When escape into fantasy is hard to escape Fantasy in films and books is promoted and sold as a socially acceptable coping mechanism, and yet for those of us in difficult and painful situations it can develop into a self-destructive crutch. Joining us today to unpack the topic of fantasy addiction is Lacy Bentley, an award winning author, women's mentor and coach, and founder of Women United Recovery Coalition. In her warm, engaging, and compassionate way, Lacy takes us by the hand and leads us through this tender topic, and gives us a practical roadmap out of the shadows and into the light. If you are feeling a little apprehensive about this topic, fear not, there is no blaming or guilting in this episode just an inspiring call to step up, face the truth, heal your wounds, learn to love yourself, and move forward. To find out about Lacy Bentley's groups or download a FREE copy of "Love" Addiction - Emotional Affairs Distracting & Obsessive Romantic Fantasy www.herrecoveryroadmap.com To ask the Fight For Love team a question or access our resource page go to www.fightforloveministries.org
  5. God's Design For Our Sexuality and Why It Matters. In this hope filled and inspiring conversation with Dr Juli Slattery, clinical psychologist, author, speaker and the president/co-founder of Authentic Intimacy, we delve deep into the mystery and majesty of the purpose of sexuality as per God's design. Her most recent book Rethinking Sexuality is a resource like no other, brilliantly fleshing out exactly what we are fighting for when we Fight For Love in our relationships. Also don't forget to check out her podcast Java with Juli. To access the Website Authentic Intimacy Website To access the podcast Java with Juli To purchase Rethinking Sexuality To see Juli's other books To access the Fight For Love Resources or ask the team a question go to our website To join our private FaceBook Group
  6. Affordable accessible help and healing for betrayed wives If you are seeking affordable, easily-accessible community and support for betrayal trauma here's another terrific option for you! Melissa Ruff is the director for Live Free Wives, a long-time group leader for betrayed women, and is studying to become a Licensed Professional Counselor. She lives with her husband of 13 years and their three wonderful children. Melissa has walked the long road of healing from betrayal and knows the difficulties that betrayed spouses face. When she was in the thick of it, there was no community for her to join, and no one that felt safe enough to walk this journey with. That is why Melissa is incredibly passionate about Live Free Wives and cannot wait for you to join the Live Free Wives community! To find out more about Live Free Wives To ask the Fight For Love team a question or see our recommended resources go to Fight For Love Ministries
  7. More Tools and Strategies To Help You Protect Your Kids This is the second part of my highly informative conversation with Marilyn Evans and Melody Bergman, founders of Parents Aware, and the hosts of the Media Savvy Moms Podcast. In this episode we tackle: How to build up digital trust with our kids What to do if they have been exposed to pornography Signs that they might be addicted to pornography What to do if you suspect that they are addicted How to manage playdates and those awkward conversations with other parents http://parentsaware.info/ -Parents Aware website http://parentsaware.info/index.php/podcast/ - podcast. Find them on iTunes, Google Play, Spotify, or wherever you listen to podcasts. Don’t forget to subscribe! http://parentsaware.info/?s=dearsavvy - quick answers to your most pressing questions https://www.instagram.com/mediasavvymoms/ https://www.facebook.com/parentsaware/ https://twitter.com/ParentsAware https://www.pinterest.com/mediasavvymoms/ FREE Guides: Quick Guide to Safer Screen Habits https://parents-aware.ck.page/a9729707d8 10 Natural Ways to Talk to Your Kids About Pornography https://parents-aware.ck.page/c23479d94a 5 Body Safety Tips for Kids https://parents-aware.ck.page/4679722b12 A Parent’s Guide to Anime (Coming Soon) Articles & Podcast Episodes: Ep. #2-2, What is Pornhub? A Parent's Guide http://parentsaware.info/index.php/2020/01/16/what-is-pornhub-a-parents-guide/ Ep. #1-19, Anime: Gateway to Porn? with Lacy Bentley http://parentsaware.info/index.php/2019/10/09/anime-gateway-to-porn/ Related Article: Five Things Parents Need to Know About Anime http://parentsaware.info/index.php/2017/05/04/five-things-to-know-about-anime/ Ep. #1-16, Sex Talks Run Amok: Laugh, Relax and Carry On http://parentsaware.info/index.php/2019/08/28/sex-talks-run-amok/ Ep. #1-6, Smooch Around Your Kids: Model Healthy Relationships at Home http://parentsaware.info/index.php/2019/04/10/smooch-around-your-kids/ Ep. #2-12, Sex Talks for Daughters with Dina Alexander, Educate and Empower Kids http://parentsaware.info/index.php/2020/03/25/sex-talks-for-daughters/ Ep. #2-10, Addressing Masturbation Without Shame http://parentsaware.info/index.php/2020/03/11/addressing-masturbation-without-shame/ Ep. #1-2, Beware of the Rattlesnakes: Safeguarding Your Kids from Pornography http://parentsaware.info/index.php/2019/02/13/beware-rattlesnakes-safeguarding-kids-from-pornography/ Ep. #2-26, What Teens Want Parents to Know About the Porn Talk with Creed Orme, Reach 10 http://parentsaware.info/index.php/2020/07/01/what-teens-want-parents-to-know-about-the-porn-talk/ Ep. #2-21, 10 Natural Ways to Start the Porn Talk http://parentsaware.info/index.php/2020/07/01/what-teens-want-parents-to-know-about-the-porn-talk/ Ep. #2-36, Tech Safety 101: Routers, Filters & Parental Controls with Chris McKenna, Protect Young Eyes http://parentsaware.info/index.php/2020/09/09/parental-controls-with-chris-mckenna/ Ep. #1-18, I Panicked When My Child Saw Porn, Now What? http://parentsaware.info/index.php/2019/09/25/i-panicked-when-my-child-saw-porn-now-what/ Ep. #2-23, Help! My Kid is Looking at Pornography http://parentsaware.info/index.php/2020/06/10/help-my-kid-is-looking-at-pornography/ Ep. #2-17, Is My Child or Teen Addicted to Porn? with Paul Lavergne, Turning Point Counselling Services http://parentsaware.info/index.php/2020/04/30/is-my-child-or-teen-addicted-to-porn/ Ep. #2-28, Female Addiction: Ending the Shame for Girls with Jessica Harris, Beggar’s Daughter http://parentsaware.info/index.php/2020/07/15/female-addiction-ending-the-shame-for-girls/ Ep. #2-24, A Father and a Fighter: Finding Endurance to Overcome Pornography with Garrett Jonsson, Fight the New Drug http://parentsaware.info/index.php/2020/06/17/a-father-and-a-fighter-finding-endurance-to-overcome-pornography/ Ep. #2-19, 4 Essential Steps to Protect Kids from Pornography http://parentsaware.info/index.php/2020/05/14/4-essential-steps-to-protect-kids-from-pornography/ FORTIFY for Teens: FREE addiction recovery program teens struggling with porn: www.joinfortify.com/mediasavvymoms http://www.joinfortify.com/mediasavvymoms
  8. Our No 1 Resource To Help You Protect Your Kids Joining us to talk about strategies and tools to help us protect our kids from pornography are passionate pioneers Marilyn Evans and Melody Bergman, founders of Parents Aware, and the hosts of the Media Savvy Moms Podcast. In the first of this two part conversation we are introduced to the wealth of resources freely available to help us tackle this difficult challenge and calm our fears. Topics covered today include: Dealing with distance learning Anime Why we need to talk about healthy sexuality How to start conversation about porn when your kids are different ages, Where to start with technological solutions ParentsAware.info Media Savvy Moms Podcast - Find us on iTunes, Google Play, Spotify, or wherever you listen to podcasts. Don’t forget to subscribe! Dear Savvy Episodes - Quick answers to your most pressing questions Connect with us: Instagram Facebook Twitter Pinterest FREE Guides: Quick Guide to Safer Screen Habits 10 Natural Ways to Talk to Your Kids About Pornography 5 Body Safety Tips for Kids A Parent’s Guide to Anime (Coming Soon) Articles & Podcast Episodes: Ep. #2-2, What is Pornhub? A Parent's Guide Ep. #1-19, Anime: Gateway to Porn? with Lacy Bentley Related Article: Five Things Parents Need to Know About Anime Ep. #1-16, Sex Talks Run Amok: Laugh, Relax and Carry On Ep. #1-6, Smooch Around Your Kids: Model Healthy Relationships at Home Ep. #2-12, Sex Talks for Daughters with Dina Alexander, Educate and Empower Kids Ep. #2-10, Addressing Masturbation Without Shame Ep. #1-2, Beware of the Rattlesnakes: Safeguarding Your Kids from Pornography Ep. #2-26, What Teens Want Parents to Know About the Porn Talk with Creed Orme, Reach 10 Ep. #2-21, 10 Natural Ways to Start the Porn Talk Ep. #2-36, Tech Safety 101: Routers, Filters & Parental Controls with Chris McKenna, Protect Young Eyes Ep. #1-18, I Panicked When My Child Saw Porn, Now What? Ep. #2-23, Help! My Kid is Looking at Pornography Ep. #2-17, Is My Child or Teen Addicted to Porn? with Paul Lavergne, Turning Point Counselling Services Ep. #2-28, Female Addiction: Ending the Shame for Girls with Jessica Harris, Beggar’s Daughter Ep. #2-24, A Father and a Fighter: Finding Endurance to Overcome Pornography with Garrett Jonsson, Fight the New Drug Ep. #2-19, 4 Essential Steps to Protect Kids from Pornography FORTIFY for Teens: FREE addiction recovery program teens struggling with porn: www.joinfortify.com/mediasavvymoms
  9. Recovery from the porn addicted husband's perspective Continuation of frank discussion with Mark, Jake and Josh. On today's episode they talk about going through 90 days of celibacy, relapses in recovery, action steps to rebuild trust , sharing triggers, temptation to lust at the beach, helping a wife's triggers, and how their life and their view of their spouse has changed in recovery. Join our private Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/FightForLoveFellowship To ask the team a question or see our recommended resources go to http://www.fightforloveministries.org
  10. Our husbands get real about why and how they successfully kicked their porn addiction. Here to answer the questions that you really wanted answering are three of our husbands, Mark, Jake and Josh. On today's episode they talk about: what prompted them to get into recovery: how they felt about doing a full disclosure and joining a group; and what helped them learn how to be intimate and empathetic with us. To ask the team a question or see our recommended resources go to http://www.fightforloveministries.org Mark's therapy practice http://www.resolvetherapy.org
  11. Interview with Anne Blythe - Founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery If consistent emotional abuse, manipulation and gaslighting are components of your relationship, this is the episode you have been waiting for. Anne Blythe, producer and host of the Betrayal Trauma Recovery podcast and founder of Betrayal Trauma Recovery, helps us begin the journey to unpack what is really going on, and face the lies, porn use, infidelity, sexual coercion and emotional abuse with confidence. Betrayal Trauma Recovery Website BTR podcast 9 Step to Healing from Betrayal Trauma Printable Checklist Trauma Mamma Husband Drama book Fight For Love Website
  12. Interview with Dr Barbara Steffens - Author, Therapist, Professor and Founder of APSATS Why is having a partner addicted to porn so traumatic? How does trauma affect the body? Why is getting to the truth so important? Is your behavior controlling or are you just seeking safety? What can you do if your partner won't tell you the whole truth, or if they refuse to get into recovery? What can you do if you get triggered when you are with your partner? And why is it so important to deal with present betrayal trauma first before diving into past trauma work. To find out more about Dr Barbara Steffens For more information about APSATS or to find a locally trained therapist. To buy Your Sexually Addicted Spouse - How Partners Can Cope and Heal To buy Help Her Heal by Carol Juergenson Sheets To buy The Body Keeps the Score:Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D. (Author) To ask the Fight For Love team a question or see our resources go to www.fightforloveministries.org
  13. Interview with CSAT Mark Makinney Sometimes the truth is easier to hear from somebody else. Someone who's been there, and isn't there any more. If you have a spouse who doesn't see why they should get into recovery, or even why you see it as such a problem here's an episode for you to share with them. To ask the team a question or see our recommended resources go to www.fightforloveminsitries.org To find out more about Mark's therapy practice go to www.resolvetherapy.org
  14. Re-run of episode 6 If you need to hear a message of hope today, this is the episode for you. So good we are running it again for those of you who have joined us recently. If you would like to access our resource page or submit a question go to http://www.fightforloveminsitries.org
  15. Fight For Love's Biblical Battleplan - Chapter 1 In this episode Rosie reads the introduction and Chapter 1 to give you a taste of the information you will find in our Biblical Battleplan Fight For Love. To find out more information about the book Fight For Love go to www.fightforlovebook.com To access the special sale rate of $5 go to https://www.lifeway.com/en/product/fight-for-love-P005817188 To access our resources or ask the team a question go to www.fightforloveministries.org
  16. Recovery is not a straight line. Be encouraged and blessed by the honesty of our very own Jené, as she describes her and her husband's recovery journey. To ask the team a question of see our recommended resources go to http://www.fightforloveminstries.org To download the reading guide go to http:www.fightforlovebook.com and scroll down the page.
  17. Interview with Drew Boa Grab your partner and listen together to this great conversation with author, podcaster, and founder of www.husbandmaterial.com, Drew Boa. After God saved his marriage before it started, Drew was given a passion to help other Christian men experience healing. Now he has an amazing platform and ministry helping other guys find freedom from porn. To find out more about Drew go to www.husbandmaterial.com Buy Drew's book Redeeming Sexuality Jay Stringer's Book Unwanted Unwanted Digital Workbook by Drew Boa and Jay Stringer Sexual Fantasy Framework Silently Seduced by Ken Adams To leave purchase or a review for Fight For Love To access our resource page or ask the team a question
  18. Interview with Rosie Makinney by Daniel and Christina Im Porn proofing our kids doesn't have to be scary and overwhelming. Today we're bringing you this uplifting and practical conversation from Daniel and Christina Im on the IMBetween Podcast and our very own Rosie Makinney. 4 steps to help porn-proof your children Signs to look for to know if your child is watching porn How you can support your child if they are struggling with a porn addiction Incredible age-appropriate resources to help you continue this important conversation with your kids and teens To buy Fight For Love click here To join Fight For Love Facebook private support group click here To ask the team and question or check out our resources click here. Resources Mentioned During the Episode: To find out from about the IMBetween Podcast Listen to IMB previous episode with Rosie, My Spouse Is Addicted To Porn Media Savvy Moms Podcast Parents Aware.info Fight The New Drug Fortify: Science Based Support For Lasting Change (program for ages 13 to 17 years old) Your Brain On Porn Protect Young Minds.org Culture Reframed.org Protect Young Eyes.com Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr: A Simple Plan to Protect Young Minds by Kristen A. Jenson Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today’s Young Kids by Kristen A. Jenson Bark.us Quotes and Tweets: When it comes to the issue of second-hand porn in our homes, there is still a collective blind spot despite the overwhelming evidence that parents’ porn consumption negatively impacts children. @RosieMakinney Porn activates the sexual part of a child’s feeling-bring before their thinking-bran even knows what sex is. @RosieMakinney Porn is the quiet killer of families, slowly and progressively destroying trust and intimacy between mothers and fathers. @RosieMakinney It is natural to want to shield your kids from the truth when it involves compulsive porn use, but experts say that it is actually worse for the child to be kept in the dark. Pretending that everything is fine will backfire. @RosieMakinney Average age of first exposure to porn is eleven. Other studies say the figure is closer to eight. @RosieMakinney My top piece of tech advice to parents is to ensure that you restrict your child’s ability to download apps onto their phone without your knowledge. You need to keep on top of what black holes your child has access to. @RosieMakinney Porn-proofing your kids does not happen in a single conversation. It is an on-going dialogue.@RosieMakinney Even when your kids’ dumb decisions trigger you, don’t forget to take a few deep breaths before responding. Your goal here is to keep the channels open. You want your kids to come to you when they have questions about something they have seen. @RosieMakinney Remember: a child who is struggling with compulsive porn use is a child whose brain has been hijacked. @RosieMakinney
  19. Interview with Gigi Hopkins - Wives Care Coordinator Listen in to Gigi Hopkins, Wives Care Coordinator at Be Broken Ministries, describe her gentle introductory 6 week course for wives of porn addicts. If you have fears and apprehensions about taking the next step into recovery, this may be just what you are looking for. For more information about Be Broken Ministries wives care group click here. To buy Fight For Love click here To join Facebook private support group click here To ask the team and question or check out our resources click here.
  20. Tools to help you find something safe to watch Watching movies and shows today in recovery is extra challenging when sex and nudity have pretty much become the norm. Here are some of our favorite websites and services that take all the hard work out of finding something safe to watch, which enables you to actually relax and enjoy your time together. https://kids-in-mind.com/ https://www.commonsensemedia.org/ https://www.pluggedin.com/movie-reviews/ https://www.pureflix.com/ https://www.vidangel.com/ For more resources or to ask the team a question go to http://fightforloveministries.org
  21. Interview with Rosie Makinney by Dr Juli Slattery from Authentic Intimacy Listen in on this great conversation between Dr Juli Slattery, president and founder of Authentic Intimacy, and our very own Rosie Makinney. Here they talk about equipping women with the appropriate steps to fight for their marriages, how to help their husbands, and find support for their own healing. Where do you draw boundaries? How do you know if he’s in a healthy support group? Is it okay to take time off from sex? They address all of those questions and more in this episode of Juli's own podcast Java with Juli. Grab your java and join us! More information on Juli Slattery and Authentic Intimacy can be found at: Website Facebook Instagram Twitter To check out Juli's follow up resources to this episode go to https://www.authenticintimacy.com/resources/21440/321-taking-your-marriage-back-from-porn?source=blog
  22. What it feels like to be hurled down the rabbit hole of recovery. For the benefit of our new listeners we are rerunning one of our first episodes to help you understand what you in for when you embark on this journey of recovery. We give you an overview of the whole process, and explain the different stages of recovery. We also share what it was really like having to embark on this challenging and unknown journey, not because of something we had done, but because of something our husbands had done. Looking for a Certified Sexual Addition Therapist near you, or an online group, or an online addiction self-assessments - go to our resource page https://www.fightforloveministries.org/resources
  23. Interview with Lyschel Burket, Lead Hope Castor and founder of Hope Redefined Ready to take that next step and reach out for your own support ? This could be just what you have been looking for. Today I interview Lyschel Burket. She has been working with women since 2008 as they take steps toward healing and their pursuit of God as they face sexual betrayal in their marriage. She has facilitated support groups specific to partners since 2013 both locally in Knoxville, TN and online through Vicki Tiede Ministries. After serving in these two spaces for almost 5 years Lyschel returned to school and obtained her coaching certification in recovery work. Lyschel is a Professional Coach, and Certified Partner Coach with APSATS (The Assoc of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists). Lyschel is the Lead Hope Caster and Founder of Hope Redefined. She desires to be a part of something so much bigger than herself as she continues to expand the reach of support for women who are facing similar things to her own recovery story. She and her husband Garren live in Knoxville, TN with their 5 kiddos. Lyschel and Garren have been on the road of recovery since 2006. Hope Redefined is 501(c)3 not for profit that supports women facing sexual betrayal. They offer online support groups, one to one coaching, an intensive healing retreat, a private online community, and community education. This ministry is a community for women to link arms and walk their paths of healing. You can learn more about Hope Redefined on their website at http://www.HopeRedefined.org Hope Redefined is 501(c)3 not for profit that supports women facing sexual betrayal. They offer online support groups, one to one coaching, an intensive healing retreat, a private online community, and community education. This ministry is a community for women to link arms and walk their paths of healing. You can learn more about Hope Redefined on their website at http://www.HopeRedefined.org To access our resources or ask the Fight For Love team a question go to http://www.fightforloveministries.org
  24. Discerning what level of sharing will help and what will harm. Whether you want to know everything or absolutely nothing that is going on inside your husband's head, it's good to know what level of sharing from him is going to help you heal and move forward and what is going to hold you back. Learn why being your husband's primary accountability partner is a bad idea, and also why basing your feeling of stability and safety on his thought life is a precarious and ineffective strategy. To access our resources, ask the team a question, buy the book Fight For Love, or join our support group go to http://www.fightforloveministries.org
  25. Questions to ask a potential counselor or therapist To help you discern whether the person you have found will be able to help you navigate through the tricky waters of recovery, I have enlisted the help of my husband, Mark Makinney, a Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist, to talk us through the important areas to consider. To access national databases of CSATs and APSATS (Certified Sexual Addiction Therapists and Association of Partners of Sex Addict Trauma Specialists) check out our resource page on our website http://www.fightforloveministries.org For more information about Mark Makinney's therapy practice go to http://www.resolvetherapy.org
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